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Although the requirements of dating sites vary as to
length and content of your profile, its important to
keep in mind that avoidance altogether is a sure way
to fail at online dating. Regardless
of the length of your personal ad, be advised that taking
the time to compose something worthwhile will naturally
attract more appropriate and compatible matches.
 Tips to help get you started:
1. Write just a short introduction
This is one way of overcoming writers block and is perfectly allowable in most online dating services. Its important to deliver a few good and inviting lines with a clear notification to the readers that it is a work-in-progress . Even if you receive a healthy number of responses, dont be tempted to leave your ad unfinished. Remember, Mr. or Ms. Right will not necessarily respond to photos alone, but might want more in depth information before making initial contact or responding to yours. Also, once youve completed your essay consider updating it regularly to reflect your new experiences and insights.
2. Search and Save Prospects Profiles
Dont waste time checking out the competition. Instead look through your prospects profiles and gather useful information on how to write generally. You will develop a sound sense of the sites use of explicit language, acceptable length, style, etc. More importantly, however, youll discover those characteristics your most desired prospects are looking for in a potential date or mate. And please dont forget to save those profiles you find most interesting for later contact.
3. Tailoring Your Profile and Language
It is commonly agreed that, honesty is the best policy! Having said that; it is also important to target your market. Know which species of bee you wish to attract and exactly what field you are planting in! In other words dont talk leather and whips when your looking for true romance at Buddhist Buddies Online.
4. Embrace Honesty and Avoid Deception
Keep in mind that online dating exposes you to that vast cyberspace known as the Internet Highway, a place where speed demons drive along side wonderful folks like yourself. Most people are very aware of this and are judicious enough to maintain a healthy level of suspicion. Although total frauds are rare, you dont want be caught in the position of having to explain even an innocent white lie or contradiction. In which case, youll most likely win a one-way ticket to Dump City.
5. Freely Express Your Interests and Values
When discussing those aspects of life, which turn you on , whether its a value, like having a family, or an interest, like skydiving, dont be afraid to include the whys and wherefores. Use descriptive and emotive language, for example, that first jump filled me with a profound sense of freedom. Firstly, you will be allowing a prospect, doing a search of skydiving, to locate you . Secondly, you may be giving the prospect a powerful subliminal message that you dont want to be possessed.
6. Talk About Yourself Positively in Subtle Ways
Too often, personal essays or profiles become nothing but tedious lists of I or Me statements. Instead, find ways to inject information about your achievements, desires, and future goals, casually , through short anecdotes, reflections, and humor. It helps to keep your ideal match in mind and write to him/her as if in direct conversation.
Adding an audio file, whenever possible, is especially important because all the information your prospect has received so far has been visual. A short audio file can enhance, authenticate, and supplement your well-executed and masterfully written essay.
7. A Few Things to Avoid with a Vengeance
Some individuals are uneasy with writing about themselves and thus feel the need to apologize to the reader. Dont be one of them! In fact dont apologize for anything whatsoever. Remember, you are a child of the universe and you have a right to be here Just try not to tell your entire life story.
Your profile should be a symphony of positive notes and tones; not a list of what you dont want or of childish demands such as, he must be financially independent. And try not to expound lengthy ideas or personal beliefs. Remember your audience will probably have a short attention span, especially, when about to be bored by unnecessary pontification.
On the other hand, dont reduce yourself to a shopping list of adjectives: Im tall, cute, temperamental, sassy, intelligent, etc. Dont write, Im an easy-going guy. Instead write with an easy-going style and youll convey the same message with greater credibility. Avoid discussing past relationships and the need to tell it all. Finally, dont forget an appetizer is just that , and leave most of yourself and other goodies for the tantalizing main course and sumptuous dessert. |
